Hays House... Misadventures In Parenting: A Union of Imperfect ...

Did you ever meet a couple that made you start out with a "Hugh?" and end up with an "Ah hah!"? This is the story of my wonderful brother in law and his oh, so beautiful, new bride.

The first time we met Nicki was at a family funeral. It was a very unexpected loss and my husband's paternal grandmother was the matriarch of our family. So losing our Gigi was even more earth shattering. We were at the visitation when in walked a raven haired beauty no one really recognized and when our little Jeffy was talking to her for an extended period of time the over-protective Hays hackles went up! I can still hear the hum of the room. Everyone was questioning the meaning of the relationship. Our little Jeff had never brought a female friend home before so there were endless questions. Finally, we were told she was just a friend who was concerned for him and had driven up to pay her respects and offer support. Puhlease!!! No one bought that! Except maybe Jeff.

And very shortly after that our little Nicki was making the Hays family rounds. We all knew before Jeff did that he was a complete goner. But I didn't really understand the relationship at first. Jeff has always been a cut up. Loud, slightly obnoxious, completely over the top and comfortable being the center of attention. Nicki was quiet, always smiling but not boisterous, sweet and loving and great with kids. Don't get me wrong, I totally think Nicki has no problem letting her freak flag fly, she just reserves it for very specific occasions. Jeff's has always been out there for the world to see. Then, like in all good things provided by our Heavenly Father, I began to see the balance. The way she rounded him out. The way he made her laugh and the way she made him grow. They are perfectly imperfect and so wonderfully right.

It was while I was in the shower that I had my final come to Jesus moment with their relationship on Friday before the rehearsal. I finally understood why their relationship and their love was so beautiful to me. The hubs and I were just the same. Everyone questioned me at first as to what it was that attracted me to him? What did I want from him/expect him to be able to give me? He was so different than me. He was so not my typical "type". Not the kind of guy everyone expected me to be with.? And I had fought it so much myself. In the beginning. I tried to break it off. I tried to dissuade him. I told him he deserved better, more, a good little Catholic girl with no baggage. He didn't want that, he wanted me! In all my imperfection I was perfect for him.

I believe God creates an individual for each of us. The sharer of our rib, so to speak. The person we cannot imagine our future without. The one soul we know as well and sometimes better than our own. And God knows us both, inside and out. This is a wonderful miracle given to us by our Father. I am so blessed to be able to share in and witness one such joining in my wonderful baby brother (in law) and his beautiful bride.

Congratulations! We love you both very, very much, Mr. and Mrs. Jeffrey Hays!

Source: http://hayshousemisadventures.blogspot.com/2012/08/a-union-of-imperfect-perfection.html

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